One of my neighbors was out mowing her lawn and the lawn mower blade hit a rock. She said the rock flew across her yard and hit her neighbor's window. The rock broke the window, tore the shades and bounced off the wall. Glass sprayed all over the bed and the carpet. She was so thankful no one was in the room at the time.
When I heard this story I realized there is something just as devastating as that rock. When gossip is passed around it is like a stone thrown from a lawn mower. Gossip tears down and even destroys our neighbors. The world today glosses over gossip and even encourages it to a point. But put gossip in perspective with the Word of God. Paul says that those who gossip have "Debased Minds". Notice how Gossip is listed right alongside murder and God haters.
And even as they did not like to retain God in their knowledge, God gave them over to a debased mind, to do those things which are not fitting; being filled with all unrighteousness, sexual immorality, wickedness, covetousness, maliciousness; full of envy, murder, strife, deceit, evil-mindedness; they are whisperers, backbiters, haters of God, violent, proud, boasters, inventors of evil things, disobedient to parents, undiscerning, untrustworthy, unloving, unforgiving, unmerciful; who, knowing the righteous judgment of God, that those who practice such things are deserving of death, not only do the same but also approve of those who practice them. Romans 1:28-32 (NKJV) [The NIV uses the word Gossips instead of whisperers.]
There is never a good reason for Gossip. Not even when a person has done one of the other sins mentioned in the passage above. We need to pray for those who fall and we need to do it quietly.
I want to be known as one of Jesus' disciples and His disciples are known for their love.
By this all will know that you are My disciples, if you have love for one another. John 13:35 (NKJV)
The opposite is also true. If we are known for our gossip then we are not known for our love and we are not known as disciples of Jesus. I choose love instead of gossip.